5 Thieves of Hope and How to Guard Against Them

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Hope is a 4 letter word that is often underrated and underestimated, especially when compared to it’s counterpart’s faith and love. However; a lot of people don’t realize that hope is an essential link to get you from where you are to where you want to be. It is a necessary ingredient to the manifestation of your dreams AND it is the heartbeat of your faith.

Let’s take for example an expectant mother. She knows that at or about 9 months,  a baby is going to be born.  As each month goes by, her anticipation increases as she begins making plans for the birth of her baby.  She’s sharing the news with loved ones, changing her diet, buying clothes, picking out a name, preparing a room, and ensuring she has the basic necessities to care for her new arrival.  This hope and expectation fuels her assurance-belief-faith that this baby is on the way. But what would happen if she didn’t feel, see, or otherwise tangibly experience the existence of this baby. Would hope remain?

It is important to note that hope can be a very fragile thing that can be stolen quite easily if one is not careful.

Here are 5 common thieves to hope:

  1. Fear-That what you’re expecting won’t actually manifest or come to pass.  This could be based on past failures, insecurities, or just pessimism.
  2. Doubt-That what you’re hoping for is beyond your reach, impossible, or unlikely to happen; causing you to wonder if it’s really for you.  Thoughts of maybe you’re not good enough, smart enough, or deserving enough of what you desire OR maybe you’re asking for too much or reaching too high, and should just settle where you are.
  3. Time-The more time that passes beyond the point of expectation, can cause one to grow weary. Take for example someone running a race.  When the finish line is in plain sight, it is easy to run, because you can see the immediate reward.  That fire of adrenaline ignites within and gives you the fortitude to run.  But, if you continue to run with no finish line in sight, you may begin to wonder if you’re running the wrong race, if you’ve veered off course, or if the finish line is out of your reach.  This produces weariness, which if left unchecked eventually steals hope.
  4. Despair-The present situation may seem so bleak and insurmountable that despair has taken over and blocked or clouded your vision.  Or, it’s possible you started off hopeful, but the interference of some of these other thieves have allowed despair to set in and take over.
  5. Other’s opinions-Often times the influence of those closest -predominately within your inner circle,  can cause one to lose hope about their situation.  They could knowingly or unknowingly plant a seed of fear, doubt, or despair, leading one to grow weary and surrender hope.

As you can see, all of the above thieves work hand in hand to snatch away hope, robbing one of their dreams. Since the things hoped for are often intangible, making it difficult to maintain; it is important to be on guard against these thieves of hope in order to see your dreams, goals, desires, and plans come to pass.

Just like an expectant mother, you must nourish the hope inside of you to keep it alive, as it is the breeding ground for your faith and the launching pad to your dreams. How can you do this?

  1. Prepare-Start taking steps toward that which you hope for. Do something tangible that’s tied to the end result.
  2. Declare-Talk about your goal or desire with a trusted source- good friend, family member, coach etc.,
  3. Prayer– This is the most important of all. Give everything to God in prayer. Whatever is in God’s will for you, He can and will restore your hope and keep it alive until He brings about the manifestation.

Never give up on your dreams and remember that all things are possible!

Until Next Time..Be Healthy, Be Whole, Be You.

Kay Davis

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Traits of Changing Seasons of Life

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Each season brings about change.Just as there are different seasons for the earth, we have a winter ❄️, spring 🌸, summer 🌞, fall 🍁, in our lives though we may not always realize it.

For most in the US; the winter ❄️️usually brings about shorter days, colder temperatures, perhaps even 🌨snow. Things die, trees are barren, animals hibernate, and people retreat indoors. In the winter season of our lives; things are quiet, still, not a lot of movement, not many changes. The landscape has been cleared and everything and everyone that is not meant to stay is cut off and removed.. It is now primed and the ready for what’s to come.

In the spring🌸, the fresh warm air defrosts the winter remains and everything is new again. 🌷 Flowers are blooming filling the trees and the ground with a beautiful array colors. 🐥Birds are chirping, 🐝bees are buzzing, and animals are coming out of hibernation. The days are longer, the grass is greener, and the 💧rain is helping to bring nature back to life. People are outside gardening, playing, and enjoying the newness of spring. In the spring of our lives, there is newness in the air. New adventures, new encounters, and new ideas. It is the time when the landscape of your life is replenished and flourishing with growth and opportunity. It is an exciting time of change.

In the summer, the ☀️heat is blazing. 🌳Trees are in full bloom. People are moving fast with so much to do, and so much to see. The 🍦 ice cream trucks are singing throughout the streets, trying to keep everyone cool. Kids are out of school, swimming and splashing, enjoying the long hot days of the season. In the summer of our lives everything is full blast. We are moving quickly from one thing to the next as time flies by. Things planted in the spring have reached full maturity and the fruit is visible.

In the fall🍁, things start slowing down. The air is crisp,  pies are baking, and the leaves 🍂are changing into a warm variety of gold, orange, and red. The wind 💨 rushes in swiftly to help the leaves to fall from the trees. Kids are going back to school, getting settled into their routine and people are getting ready, gathering things for the upcoming winter season. In the fall of our lives, we’re slowing down, taking inventory of what no longer serves us and making decisions to eliminate it. Meanwhile harvesting those things that are of value in our lives. We are settling and preparing for what’s to come.

The seasons of our lives may not be in order, but we are in the constant ebb and flow of life. Things don’t stay the same. For some change is difficult and is often resisted. For others the change is thrilling and keeps life exciting.

Whichever end of the spectrum you find yourself on, change is going to happen whether we like it or not. Good times, bad times; ups, downs; gains, losses; failures, victories; disappointments, accomplishments. It is inevitable.

So with each change of season, though some may  be uncomfortable, try your best to embrace it and find the positive, knowing that in just a little while, it will be changing again. Do you know what season you’re in?

Until next time..

Be healthy, Be whole, Be you!

Kay Davis

 

The Pros and Cons of Social Media: Is it helping or hurting us?

 

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We are living in the day of social media. It is part of our culture. It has become an intricate part of our society. It is a necessity for some and a burden for others. It has evolved from its first beginning and it continues to evolve with the advancement of technology. The question is, is it helping us or hurting us? Let’s explore.

For some it is used as:

  • A medium to re-connect with those from the past or connect with new people.
  • A means of expression and sharing information or knowledge.
  • Validation and acceptance.
  • A form of entertainment or staying in “the know.”
  • Promotion or networking for their business.

I’m not here to say what’s right or wrong about using social media, because different people use it for different things. I just find it interesting that we as a society are often more concerned about:

  • Taking a selfie every hour only to post and see how many likes you get, meanwhile taking away from enjoying the moment.
  • Harassing, bullying, or ostracizing someone because they have an opinion that is contrary to what the majority feels one should think, say, or do.
  • Airing dirty laundry, causing strife and division among loved ones, instead of building each other up.

Again, I’m not here to bash social media, after all I’m on it! Some channels attract my interest more than others which is why it is good that there are many options available. I for one was very hesitant about getting on social media because of my private nature but have overcome my reservations and have found it to be very beneficial to me. I have made meaningful connections and use it -within balance.

I worry about the younger generation not being able to communicate verbally or express themselves unless they’re typing it. I also worry about the fickle nature of the way the word ‘Friends’ is used on some social media channels. I truly believe people think that if you’re ‘friends’ on social media you’re friends in real life. Just because someone likes your page, picture, or comments does not make them your friend. That is not the true nature of friendship. Just because someone says they want to be your friend and you communicate and share thoughts, ideas, even laughs with them, that still does not make them your friend.

A true friend is dependable, trustworthy, respectful, loyal and cares about your feelings and well-being. They demonstrate this beyond ‘friendly’ words-it comes through in their actions as well. They will be there to support you when you need them and not just when it serves them.  They will see you for you, value you for the person you are, and are in touch with reality enough to know that we are all flawed we don’t live inside this perfect glass bubble behind the computer screen or the smartphone. That’s fantasy. A true friend will respect and value the person that you are and your bond of friendship, will address and confront challenges head on, not simply avoid or cease communication.

I am fortunate enough to have true friends in my life that have been around for years, and find that as I get older and technology becomes more advanced, it is not as easy to build quality relationships with quality people. It’s something worth thinking about, before we’re all so caught up in the hype that we forget the things that are at the central core of our existence, or forget what it means to truly build and maintain meaningful relationships, the art of communication, the freedom of opinion, and living and cherishing the moment with those closest to you!

Makes you wander is social media helping or hurting us as a society? I think the answer is both. You decide. Leave a comment and let me know your thoughts!

 

 

PS. Check out my video here: https://youtu.be/xiiNYd1ApkM

Until next time…Be Healthy, Be Whole, Be You!

Kay Davis

4 Virtues of Patience

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We have all heard that patience is a virtue. It is the ability to accept delay without frustration. Those with patience are able to remain calm and avoid sudden impulses when under pressure.

Being impatient has little benefit; whether it’s a traffic jam, a long line at an event, or a slow clerk at the grocery store; you may as well sit back, enjoy your music on the radio, enjoy your companion in the line, or offer a friendly smile to the frazzled clerk at the store. Make the best out of the situation!

Patience is beneficial to your health, happiness, relationships, and goals.

Consider some of these virtues to having patience:

  1. It’s easier to be happy when you’re patient. Impatient people are often experiencing stress and anxiety, on some level so having patience reduces this unpleasant state of mind. Challenging situations are more manageable when the situation can be approached with patience. 
  2. Patience promotes good health. The stress that impatient people feel is harmful to the mind, body, and emotions. Heart conditions, chronic headaches, ulcers, and many other health conditions are often the result of stress. Those that exercise patience often suffer from fewer medical issues, potentially increasing their life span.
  3. You can accomplish your goals. Some goals require a certain amount of time to manifest, and for this you need patience. People often times quit and never accomplish their goals or see their dreams come to pass, for lack of patience. Have you allowed impatience to sabotage your destiny?
  4. You’ll make better decisions. Impatient people tend to be impulsive; therefore, don’t take the necessary time to make wise decisions. Patience provides the time and space to ponder the situation and make a wise decision. Do you recall a time in your life where you’ve made bad decisions due to being impatient?

If you think about it, being impatient doesn’t do anything to help your situation, in fact it can make a challenging situation a whole lot worse, stealing your peace in the process. Relax, take a deep breath, and remember the virtues of having patience!

Until next time…Be Healthy, Be Whole, Be You!

Kay Davis

5 Reasons Why You Should Laugh Everyday

5 Reasons Why You Should Laugh Everyday

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I’m sure you’ve all heard the saying that “Laughter is the best medicine.” Have you ever wondered why or how? Laughter is beneficial for your health, mood, stress, relationships, and others around you.

Here are some advantages of laughing:

 

  1. Strengthen your health. The more you laugh, the less frequently you’ll be sick. Studies have shown that laughing strengthens the immune system and lowers your blood pressure, improving the health of your brain and heart.
  2. Decrease stress. Daily life can be stressful at times. Laughter is a very good way to reduce stress. When you have a good sense of humor, it’s easy to find reasons to laugh about life and temporarily forget about your challenges for a moment.
  3. Elevate your mood. Laughter increases endorphins which make you feel good, these feelings can last for hours. Finding the humor in situations can redirect your focus from what’s negative, to something more pleasurable.
  4. Benefit others. Laughter and humor is contagious. Your smiling face and light mood can uplift and brighten the moods of those around you. Your relationships will also benefit from your ability to laugh and appreciate the lighter side of life.
  5. Boost your intelligence. A study demonstrated that laughing stimulates the learning centers of the brain, which if done on a regular basis, is believed to enhance the ability to learn new information.

Hopefully now, you can see how laughing and smiling aren’t frivolous gestures, but offer tremendous benefits to you and those around you. Enjoy funny movies, tell a joke- make it a point to find the humor in life, and spend time with others who enjoy laughing. Even if you can’t find anything to laugh about, start with smiling and see what happens!

Until next time…Be Healthy, Be Whole, Be You!

Kay Davis

Follow Your Heart OR Not?

Follow your Heart OR Not?

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Follow your heart they say. It’s a nice saying, that makes us feel warm and fuzzy inside, but really, is this a good idea?

Let’s think about it. Your heart is where your emotions dwell, it’s a part of your soul. It’s our feeler center, where we experience love, hate, anger, bitterness, happiness etc., Because we are human, it is a natural inclination to want to follow our feelings or our hearts. Go with what you feel, right? Or not? If everybody did what they felt like doing, our society would be in a bigger mess than we are today!

Unfortunately, the things that we are seeing play out in society today are just that, people following their hearts and being led by their feelings. What’s in our hearts provides the fuel for action.  Every school shooting and terrorist act was carried out by someone who had hatred and bitterness in their hearts, which provided them the fuel to carry out these horrendous acts.

We often think of this saying when it comes to matters of love. But even then, simply following your heart is not something wise to do. You can love someone that is toxic or simply not for you, but because those feelings are there and you’re ‘following your heart’, this can lead you down a long, empty, and maybe even dangerous road.

We must be balanced in all areas of ourselves. Remember we are a 3 part being:

  • Spirit (the innermost part of us, where God lives)
  • Soul (mind, will, emotions/heart)
  • Body (flesh and blood)

God, the Creator of all, says it best in the Bible where He warns us that the heart is wicked and to guard our hearts with all diligence.

Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life. -Proverbs 4:23

The heart is deceitful above all things, and it is exceedingly corrupt: who can know it? -Jeremiah 17:9

So the next time someone advises you to follow your heart, think again!

Until next time…Be Healthy, Be Whole, Be You!

Kay Davis

The Path to Greatness

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The Path to Greatness is not an easy road to travel. It is unpaved, narrow, barren, and bleak. It is long and dark and seems as though it goes on for miles with no end in sight. It seems useless, pointless, as though you’re making no progress. No people in sight for miles, with a glimpse at someone trudging along this long, winding road every now and again. There are twists and turns, hills and valleys, sometimes it seems like you’re going in circles or moving steadily but getting nowhere.

The thought of quitting and turning around to travel on a road that’s more familiar, more comfortable, tempts you every day. But then you remember all the hurdles, struggles, obstacles you’ve overcome. All the strength, endurance, courage, determination, and perseverance you’ve acquired along the way. Then you realize you’ve come too far to quit-all of your efforts would be in vain if you don’t move forward to see the rewards of your labor.

You tell yourself-keep pressing ahead, don’t quit, don’t worry, don’t fret. My dreams will come to pass; my labor is not in vain. For it is then that you realize why the path to greatness is the road less traveled. It is cumbersome, it is treacherous, it is hard, and it is not built for the common man-the common man won’t last.  Those that travel on this path to greatness that make it to the end, are not ordinary, they were built to last, This is what make them great.

No matter how treacherous the path may be, keep pushing through to the end, greatness is a part of your destiny.

Until Next Time,

Be Healthy, Be Whole, Be You!

Kay Davis