We are living in the day of social media. It is part of our culture. It has become an intricate part of our society. It is a necessity for some and a burden for others. It has evolved from its first beginning and it continues to evolve with the advancement of technology. The question is, is it helping us or hurting us? Let’s explore.

For some it is used as:

• A medium to re-connect with those from the past or connect with new people.
• A means of expression and sharing information or knowledge.
• Validation and acceptance.
• A form of entertainment or staying in “the know.”
• Promotion or networking for their business.

I’m not here to say what’s right or wrong about using social media, because different people use it for different things. I just find it interesting that we as a society are often more concerned about:

• Taking a selfie every hour only to post and see how many likes you get, meanwhile taking away from enjoying the moment.
• Harassing, bullying, or ostracizing someone because they have an opinion that is contrary to what the majority feels one should think, say, or do.
• Airing dirty laundry, causing strife and division among loved ones, instead of building each other up.

Again, I’m not here to bash social media, after all I’m on it! Some channels attract my interest more than others which is why it is good that there are many options available. I for one was very hesitant about getting on social media because of my private nature but have overcome my reservations and have found it to be very beneficial to me. I have made meaningful connections and use it -within balance.

I worry about the younger generation not being able to communicate verbally or express themselves unless they’re typing it. I also worry about the fickle nature of the way the word ‘Friends’ is used on some social media channels. I truly believe people think that if you’re ‘friends’ on social media you’re friends in real life. Just because someone likes your page, picture, or comments does not make them your friend. That is not the true nature of friendship. Just because someone says they want to be your friend and you communicate and share thoughts, ideas, even laughs with them, that still does not make them your friend.

A true friend is dependable, trustworthy, respectful, loyal and cares about your feelings and well-being. They demonstrate this beyond ‘friendly’ words-it comes through in their actions as well. They will be there to support you when you need them and not just when it serves them.  They will see you for you, value you for the person you are, and are in touch with reality enough to know that we are all flawed we don’t live inside this perfect glass bubble behind the computer screen or the smartphone. That’s fantasy. A true friend will respect and value the person that you are and your bond of friendship, will address and confront challenges head on, not simply avoid or cease communication.

I am fortunate enough to have true friends in my life that have been around for years, and find that as I get older and technology becomes more advanced, it is not as easy to build quality relationships with quality people. It’s something worth thinking about, before we’re all so caught up in the hype that we forget the things that are at the central core of our existence, or forget what it means to truly build and maintain meaningful relationships, the art of communication, the freedom of opinion, and living and cherishing the moment with those closest to you!

Makes you wander is social media helping or hurting us as a society? I think the answer is both. You decide. Leave a comment and let me know your thoughts!

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Until next time…Be Healthy, Be Whole, Be You!

Kay Davis